TALK TO EACH OTHER.

“Talking from conversation”

Driven by a narrow vision, a few ill-equipped messengers of destruction rain down unimaginable misery and carnage on generations, destroying cities and development institutions. These blindly following the path of suffering, these destroyers, who are busy stoking the flames, are turning back the fruits of civilization and development that have been left behind by centuries and generations, into a dark, backward place. It does not take a genius to be a destroyer.

It does not take time or training to burn down the ashes of public utilities that have been built for years, such as places of worship, schools, hospitals, and the like. What is needed is a passion fueled by a sense of malice and revenge. A passion unleashed without knowledge is a fire. An unbridled emotional ride that has reached the historical edge, destroys the present, and darkens the future. A train of emotions, divorced from reason, driven blindly, loses its way, mercilessly destroying and crushing everything it finds, and finally burns and is destroyed by the fire it has created. Just as those who engage in wrongdoing do not expect development, they do not draw the sword of destruction under the guise of good intentions.

In our country, Ethiopia, conflicts are occurring at various times and for various reasons, causing property destruction and irreplaceable loss of precious human lives. It is difficult to say that there is a sincere citizen who has not been saddened, disturbed, disturbed, and asked ‘Why?’ by the shameful and tragic events that have recently occurred in some areas of Oromia. These tragic events are leaving indelible scars on the minds of the generation, causing social unrest, and destroying the values ​​of living together. In addition, we have all been victims of social and economic crises in our homes. Even our country’s economy, which has been struggling for years, is being repeatedly hit by these events.

The decisions people make in a way divorced from reason and the actions they take in a way divorced from emotion and anger will never be reversed and will leave them with irreversible damage and lifelong regret. But are the evil thoughts that gave birth to these actions the seeds that have been sown and are now sprouting? How could this terrible act have been committed on such a scale and at such a moment among a people who have been loved, bred, respected and cared for for many centuries? For those who are confused and confused about the answer, what can happen when emotion is completely divorced from reason? Does it really cause such disasters? The way out and the solution?

For those who ask such powerful questions, the brilliant, timely, and scientific book “Talking Instead of Talking” written by Samuel Wolde (PhD), a psychologist, psychiatrist, and theologian who has been enlightened by the light of the Gospel, provides answers. The author powerfully and wisely encourages readers to be motivated to talk, showing that the solution to the national challenges that are destroying generations, destroying the country, making mothers cry, and confusing leaders, competing politicians, religious leaders, and scholars is “talking instead of talking.”

Is there anyone in our country who does not understand the importance of dialogue, as I do, considering the title of the book, “From Dialogue to Dialogue?” To the reader who asks, confused and bewildered by everything he sees and hears around him, ‘Is there a national problem in Ethiopia that has been solved and can be solved through dialogue?’ The author says in his book, ‘Yes! There is.’ They say that there are no family, social, community and national problems and obstacles that cannot be solved through dialogue and heart-to-heart consultation “based on truth and filled with love,” and they rekindle our hope for living together and respecting each other. They also say that we are not too late by citing amazing historical truths as examples.

The rich Western countries, who are now surprised by our mutual slaughter and perhaps even mocking us behind the scenes, have declared war on each other a few decades ago, motivated by emotion and greed, even over the pretext of a dog that had trespassed on another country’s border; they have been defeated and destroyed; they have been defeated, they explain and show the records of history. Having passed the aforementioned and other ridiculous and surprising chapters, the Westerners assert that the main path to their current political stability and the economic and social prosperity they have achieved is only through close and heart-to-heart talks.

They clearly indicate that it is possible to maintain a common goal, create a common understanding, and eliminate doubts and gossip by removing the ‘jokers’, ‘we are the enemies’ and conflict profiteers who are in the middle for their own personal gain, and to move towards a common goal through effective speech “based on truth and filled with love.” The way they explain scientific analysis and guiding principles to the reader in detail to help with this is unique. They show the generation that used to say “Silence is golden”, “Profession is in the heart” and the generation that uses every means of speech that the time has given them, “Now is my time”, that they lack effective speech skills. Sometimes, they struggle to bring all citizens back to the right track by admonishing them with knowledge. As we all understand, today is an opportunity to build the foundation of tomorrow’s success. One of the most important foundations of national prosperity, as the author emphasizes, is the ability to “take off the mask” and talk heart to heart, and to solve problems through dialogue.

If talking really does solve our problems, why do the conflicts in our country lead to massacres? Is it because we don’t talk? Or are we just blindly treating our conversations as conversations?

If we say that families and communities always live in harmony and respect for the natural resources and various resources available in the country where they were born and the village where they live, we are lying to ourselves. We are falling into the trap of the listener. Conflict is a daily occurrence in places where there is a shortage of resources. “Talking to each other” offers a glimmer of hope to readers who are confused by the frequent conflicts between families, communities and ethnic groups and the devastation they cause. It is a true “prescription” for all minds that are ready to change in a wonderful way.

“Conflicts are a lens that helps us broaden our horizons and opportunities and dawns that lead to growth and improvement”; “Conflict is not the enemy of coexistence, but a scale that measures the price residents pay for living together,” Dr. Samuel said, placing the responsibility on the shoulders of each individual, and for leaders, “When conflict arises between families and communities, between nations and societies, it is a call to action for leaders”; “Problems and disagreements are not only opportunities for development, but also a natural platform for true leaders to reveal themselves,” he said, urging all those in leadership positions in our country at all levels to examine themselves and fulfill their responsibilities.

In another chapter, entitled “The Responsibility of Leaders,” they argue that good leaders are aware of their role in history and need the necessary practical and psychological preparation to solve the problems that arise in society. They say that appointing a leader who does not meet the criteria that leaders must meet is like taking off as a trainee pilot and preparing to die happily if they make a mistake. They also analyze the detailed requirements that the people will insist on asking the “politician” who swears to be a leader, “How and in what ways are you prepared to be a leader ?”

“Talking Out of Dispute” is a book that combines the beauty of literature, organized into eight chapters, and presents in-depth scientific analyses on the subject, current events, balanced theological understandings, and historical events. Not only in each chapter, but in every paragraph, there are thoughts that are thought-provoking, enlightening, and transcendent. However, instead of sharing my perspective on all the chapters in this short article, I will dwell on the conflicts because my reading has recently come across an event that has weighed on my heart, and I have seen many truths in the book that can be a remedy and hope for our current problems.

From Conversation to Conversation is a book that is presented in an engaging, informative, engaging, educational, and inspiring way, and I have learned a lot from it. It would not be an exaggeration to say that there is no other book written in the Amharic language that I have read that is prepared to this standard and on this topic. I am stating this without any hesitation to those who are reading this book, believing that you will agree with my opinion when you read it, and also because I want you not to miss out on this quality and carefully prepared table.

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